Well, I just quit the trans Discord server I was a mod for. Quit the whole server. Once again, the server owner decided she had to insult someone for disagreeing with her, and once again it was me. This time because I stated that the c-word (“cunt”) was objectionable to me and that I considered it as vile a term as the n-word. That’s how I was raised! So she says I just need to let it go and also calls me racist for some unfathomable reason.

This was hardly the first time we’ve butted heads, but this was the last time. I just am so sick her holier than thou attitude. I wasn’t even asking for anything specific, just for other people in the server to understand that for some people, especially older people like myself, that is a horribly vile, and disgusting insult that reduces a woman to nothing more than a walking set of genitalia. That was apparently too much of an ask, though.

So I gave up.

Do note where I say we butted heads before. This was not a knee-jerk reaction to a single incident, it was the culmination of a year’s worth of conflicts that just never seemed to end. This had been coming for a long time. I had previously stepped down as a moderator even, but the server owner gave me back my mod powers without asking me and apologized, so I took up the role again.

I do not like the way this has worked out. I think that being an active part of the trans community is very important for older trans people like me so that we can share our own experience with the younger generation. I am still in a couple of other trans servers and will continue to be active in them, but the one I left simply had become too unpleasant for me because of the server owner’s dismissive attitude towards anyone who disagreed with her.